Arousal and Erotica
Today’s topic is interesting and one I have decided to write about as it is a question I am asked often. So, I thought I would tackle it.
As men age, many don’t find it as easy to be aroused as when they were younger. This can be due to lots of things; age, illness, treatment of illness, change in sensation, relationship issues, hormone decline, the list goes on and on. This can be a surprise to many men as they expect to feel ‘horny” all the time.
Believe it or not, all men like film pornography and an alternative are erotic literature. Reading can be a great way to get the imagination working and it is a little less confronting for many people than the visual imagery of film pornography.
Recently, I was asked by a lovely gentleman post prostate cancer if there was anything I could suggest to assist with arousal. He is in love with his partner and finds her very attractive. However, post treatment, even though he can get the bits to perform, he feels like arousal is more difficult.
We have covered various toys for extra stimulation in other blogs so today we will talk about different types of media that may assist.
Different Types of Media to Assist with Arousal
I was stumped for suggestions, so I contacted a regular client who I know reads widely. His response was that he was delighted to help with caveat that “one person's food is another's poison” so with this in mind, he shared some sources of erotica that he has found enjoyable.
I would like to thank this client for sharing his knowledge and I hope you all find something that appeals to you.
~ Melissa
Erotica Ebooks
Regarding books, I buy nearly all of mine from Amazon. They have an Erotica category and one can find all sorts of goodies there. It's just a matter of crafting a search-phrase that caters to one's tastes. Books are cheap enough that one can buy and then discard, if unsuitable, with no great loss. I read them on my tablet using the free Kindle app available from the Play Store.
Free Erotica Ebooks
One place to go for free ebooks is Smashwords. Since they're free, there are fewer there than the tens of thousands on Amazon but there are still some good ones to be had. I download my Smashwords books in ePub format and read them using the free application, FBReader. I expect I could read them using my Kindle app instead but choose not to in order to keep the two sources separate.
Erotica Paperbacks
On rare occasions I buy paperbacks from op-shops, such as Salvos, Red Cross, Save The Children, etc. It might seem surprising that they can be found there, but they can. Needless to say, they are cheap as chips, so once again it's no great loss if they end up in the bin straight away. The most challenging moment comes when presenting them to the check-out staff for purchase!
Photographic Erotica
There are also photographic erotica books on Amazon too, if one is so inclined. Such books are found in the photography subcategory of Erotica. If this subcategory is not immediately visible, one needs to search in Erotica first and then go to the menu icon in the top right corner and select the photography subcategory from there.
SBS On Demand
SBS On Demand is a great resource for exploring sex and sexuality and can be quite inspiring, often mentioning websites or books along the way that are worth following up.
Erotica Recommendations
If your clients would like some recommendations, well, here are a few that range from sensuously warm to blazing ho
From the Contributor himself:
Apologies in advance for any of the above suggestions that don't appeal. My tastes are quite broad and I wouldn't want to offend anyone by recommending something that is anathema to them, but I hope at least some of them hit the spot.
This topic of sex is such an exhilarating, life-giving, and liberating subject, which we need to give ourselves permission to explore and enjoy. (Well, I think so anyway...)
